What makes CONFLICT so difficult? Conflict threatens our sense of self. The fact that another person seems to have the power to hurt us makes us feel weak, unstable, and unsafe. In order to defend this sense of self and feel stronger, we may attempt demonstrate our own power to hurt them back. Mature? No. Helpful? Definitely not. Kind of understandable? Yes. The problem with focusing on defending yourself puts the energy in attempt to avoid the - pain and hurt - instead

Wanna Fight? It’s normal for a couple to quarrel from time to time—just part of what it means to be together. Conflicts and arguments won’t necessarily jeopardize a relationship. In fact, there are times when disagreements can actually bring a couple closer together. The key is in how you and your partner decide to handle the conflict. Check out these benefits. Spread Love, Debbie

Have you ever experienced PAIN? Yes, we all have. Pain is an absolute part of life. It's what you experience, a broken heart, loss of job, death of loved one, everyday life that knocks you around ~ you feel and experience deep hurt! That feeling that leads you to feeling powerless is called SUFFERING. Pain IS Inevitable. Suffering IS Optional. You are NOT powerless. Pain can result in Anger and Resentment or you can use it as a driver to strength, love and spiritual fulfillme